Buliding a shared library and need to specify an existing library, how?

[Jim]

One of the classes in the shared library requires/references a system 
library.  I included the system library in the library list of the 
program that is using the shared library but I guess because the objects 
in the program don't require it, the loader is ignoring it and complains 
that it can't find "....". 

So is there a way, other than putting a dummy reference into the 
program, to force the loader to look at the system library?

I tried reordering the references, but if that's the solution, I didn't 
get it right.

Thanks,
Jim.

Here's the error:
g++ -g -O2 -o vaprobe arc.o probethread.o protocamera.o protosimple.o 
vaprobe.o  -L/usr/lib/mysql -limageserver-0.1 /usr/lib/libsqlite3.so 
-lmysqlpp -lboost_regex /usr/lib/libmysqlclient.so -lpthread -lssl 
-lccgnu2 /usr/lib/libcurl.so -lccext2 -ldl /usr/lib/libxml2.so
/usr/local/lib/libimageserver-0.1.so: undefined reference to 
`sqlite3_decode_binary(unsigned char const*, unsigned char*)'

Here's the imageserver/Makefile.am file

INCLUDES = -I/usr/include/cc++2 -I/usr/local/include 
-I/usr/include/mysql -I/usr/local/include/imageserver-0.0
DEPS_CLAGS = -I/usr/include/cc++2 -I/usr/local/include -I/usr/include/mysql
DEPS_LIBS=  -L/usr/lib/mysql -lsqlite3 -limageserver-0.1 -lsqlite3 
-lmysqlpp -lboost_regex -lmysqlclient -lpthread -lssl -lccgnu2 -lcurl 
-lccext2 -ldl -lxml2

bin_PROGRAMS=vaprobe
vaprobe_SOURCES=...

Note, I tried to put it in before and after but libtool reoders it. 
Is there somthing I can do when I generate the shared library that might 
get saved so the loader knows I need the sqlite3 library?  This worked 
fine when the class referencing the sqlite3 library was part of the 
vaprobe program.